Varsha

Hi,

After a long time I am back on the blog.

The tile is "Varsha" and its not about rains...

The person I am here talking about is Mrs. Varsha Gupta or to detail... Mrs. Varsha Bhuvan Gupta.

I always used to think during our college days that once we all will get married, our friendship will change, according to the nature of our spouse, and this is a valid fact almost like a universal law.

This became a latent yet constant worry on my mind since Bhuvan has been asking me to visit Dubai at his place. The core of worry was, will Varsha be able to accept Me the way Bhuvan regards.  This is a common problem in almost all buddy circles, I believe.

However Bhuvan was so much persistent, that we couldn't help it and made a trip to Dubai, the way they have advised.

No doubt Bhuvan has taken exceptional care for everything (but this was somewhere I have expected from him) The treatment from Varsha was a delight.

I can understand a person joining an old gang and enjoying the memory peals and those nostalgic discussions, but the difficult part was to treat & accompany those Friends of spouse (FoS, from now onwards) with love all the time (including some irritating encounters).

Hats off to Varsha, for her love, care,  tasteful cooking and excitement during each and every moment of our visit. Somewhere I have read that One can not fake 'Excitement', rest all emotions can be managed.

I wish Your sense of understanding may go contagious...

Luv

VT

Falling in love with a City part 2 "Delhi !!!"

Hi,

back after a long time. had a lot to share.. Dubai trip, First rains in Mumbai of the season etc. etc. but as I wrote earlier to write about Delhi. I must start from there.

Delhi... to me is like a girl whom I have fallen in love with, of course it has taken its own time. A girl whom I liked in first sight. developed a comfort level day by day. Initially you like some of her qualities and hated few other, but slowly slowly you started loving it completely.

She (Delhi) has given me a lot, first love, first Job and a lot of first experiences in my life. Apart from that Delhi was with me during the toughest time of my life. I decided to spent all my life with Her.

But....

Here comes the sad part of the story, when you are almost settled to settle with her, destiny brings someone new to you. You do not get sufficient time to meet of judge this new person (Mumbai) in this case. But you get married to her (Mumbai) as destined.

I gelled up with this new person (Mumbai) and we started accepting each other and finally get settle almost (booked a home...).

But whenever I visit Delhi, I feel as If meeting the one whom you loved but couldn't get married. Each and every moment spent in Delhi reminds of all those good times we spent together with an unspoken promise that we are there for each other forever.

The dilemma is that you love the new person too....

Would like to end this piece with a couplet one of my younger bro. has posted on FB

"Khwahishon ka kaafila bhi ajeeb hai....Kambakhat gujarta wahin se hai jahan raaste nahi Hote..!!"

Luv

VT (Vish)

Falling in Love with a City... Part 1 (kolkata)

Hi,

Back after a long time, as May 2011 made me travel a bit around 2 special cities of India. Kolkata & Delhi.

Let me talk a little about my time with both (Cities) of them....

Kolkata :

This has been a special place for me because a particular reason. The first official training which I conducted was held at Kolkata on 2nd Sep. 2009. and somehow almost every financial year I began with a program in Kolkata and this is not planned by me but automatically by destiny.

On the following link you can checkout pics of Park Street during my last visit (morning walk)

https://picasaweb.google.com/itsvishal/MorningWalkParkStreatKolkata?authkey=Gv1sRgCMadrvyx2PXCcw#

Over last 2-3 years during my numerous visits (though almost all of them were not more than a day visit) I never got to see Kolkata beyond Airport, Park street & the terrible traffic in between. Still I can sense that the city has some charm in it, which makes you feel its identity very strongly.

Whenever I am there I do not miss to take 3-4 strolls around Park street, and following few things I could not miss to mention:

1. The Arc designs and buildings which resemble with New Delhi's Conaught place & also some parts of South Mumbai.

2. The Oxford book store : My most favorite book store in India, apart from the ambiance & other facilities the atmosphere in this store is somewhat most special. You can see young kids talking about literature, Youngsters exploring Tagore and those Booker stuff etc.

3. The street food. ( and its unbelievable price)

4. The roadside bookshops- Though you can find such shops in every small & big city in India now but the kind of collection you find in Kolkata is class apart.

5. The Floweriest : No doubt, the best floweriest in India would be from Kolkata. even the smallest of the flower shop would have innovative and designer bouquets (again the price tag would make you feel that floweriest in your city are robbers in disguise)

6. Music Mania: The city has an special attachment for Music and even a small restaurant/ Bar in the evening would be having a live band performing everyday. Though you can find such Bars in other metros too but either those will be too hi-fi Restaurants like Hard Rock Cafe or will be too shabby like Delhi's Pahadgunj types. More over the quality of performance here would be good even in some really low price restaurants.

All which I never liked there was Hand pulled rickshaws and development in hibernation. I think the change has arrived and I am eager to see New Kolkata in near future....

As for As Delhi is concerned I will comeback on this topic in my next post!!!

Luv

VT (or Vish...this is a new acronym evolving for me these days...)

The Dialogue... Part 2

"Woh Zindagi Hi kya Jisme Koi Namumkin Sapna Na Ho !!!"

 The Dialogue comes from the movie "Khamoshi The Musical". Though in spite of being a great movie Its not one of my top most favorites. However the Dialogue is definitely the one which makes me ponder a while always.

By the way let me first share with you all that I took a long time for this post as I was busy attending an outbound training program and which has taken a lot of energy. It was certainly a great experience and perhaps I would talk about the same in the next post (with pics of course...)

Lets come back to the current post...

As we grow up we keep on loosing ...

1. Interest in songs (in the lyrics of the songs, to be specific)

2. We start reading more facts than fiction, even when we read fiction, we pick then up as a big notion that they are 'Fiction'

3. Stop believing in coincidences, miracles, telepathy, power of friendship, love, intuitions etc.

4. Stop making new friends and start losing touch with the old ones.

5. Stops enjoying company of Friends...

( let me elaborate the last one.. We start enjoying the set up more than the people around e.g. there was a time when we used have a close group of chosen friends with them we used to enjoy anything and  everything be it a boring movie, a useless song, a senseless book, loved to eat out at any place almost anything etc. so the group or the person was important but not the things you were enjoying with them.

Look at yourself now. Now you need a comfortable atmosphere, things to eat & drink of your taste, a comfortable time and a lot of carefully chosen & planned things which I address as 'Set up' then only you could enjoy or relax.  finding it difficult to understand, let me explain it  further...

If you are in a great restaurant you enjoy eating even with a useless bunch of people, same thing happens when you like to dance with strangers on a 5 start dance floor  or Do not enjoy a good movie just because the Theatre (Sorry Multiplex) did not have comfortable temperature or you did not get the favorite flavor of Popcorn. Got it. The 'set up' has become more important than the company (People).

Actually we started living in the practical world and tuned ourselves to be accustomed to the realizable comforts of the life.  What we do not realise is that it leaves us as a bitter person at the end. Who has a lot negative to talk about anything.

And then I think of the Dialogue "Woh Zindagi hi kya Jusme Koi Namumkin Sapna Na ho".., This Phrase is a lot similar to my another philosophy of "Raste pe hun Manzilon pe nahi..." And I think It has a coincidence with the Tile of Steve Jobs's Book "The Journey Is the Reward" and is also similar to The Bagvad Gita's Philosophy of  "Karmanye Wa Dhikaraste Maa Faleshu Kadachan"...

Why we have stopped enjoying the journey?? Why we are so obsessed with rewards, achievements & Acomplishments....??

Have a Dream.. The one which is quite unrealizable ... (Namumkin Sapna) It will make You:

1. Loving people beyond logic

2. Giving things without calculating Returns

3. Enjoying lyrics of old songs

4. Will make feel things better just by seeing a good old Friend or just by listening to him/her

5. More over it will help you to believe in positive coincidences, power of intuition and a lot of magical things in life...

So what if you never realize the dream, if you live each and every moment with a magical self belief, I am sure the life would be much more interesting & worth living for.

Would like to conclude with one of may favorite songs, requesting you all to visualize its video while reading these lines....

"Hum jo chalne lage, Chalne lage hain Ye Raaste...

Han Han Manzil se behtar KLagne Lage Hain Ye Raaste..."

Luv

VT

The Dialogue...

"Maine Zindgi me hamesha apne Dil ki Suni Hai...

Shayad isi liye main Kabhi Bada Aadmi Nahi Ban Paaya..."

(Alok Nath - In the Movie "Maine Pyar Kiya")

No doubt what ever people say I still & Strongly believe that the best movie from Rajshree's banner is "Maine Pyar Kiya". It may appear a little (or More) ham now a days, with our newly acquired sense of neo-cinema & all. But Maine Pyar Kiya was a super hit and still a compelling watch when ever it is running on Television.

The best thing about a movie is its 'impact' apart from all other technicalities if it makes you feel like what director wanted you to feel, than it will be a success, you may keep criticizing it with all your intelligence later on.

e.g. movies like 'Gadar, K3G, Dabangg or even Maine pyar kiya' made people crazy about these flicks, though you may find many people criticizing these movies later on or at least not counting these movies as their favorites or the one which they liked, somewhat like Chetan Bhagat's Novels.

However this post is not about movies etc. But about my most favorite dialogue from the movie "MPK".

Dialogues are a key feature of motion picture which can never be felt so nicely in any other form of literature viz. novels, poetry etc. As far as old movies are concerned there were lot of emphasis on dialogues unlike today where other technicalities have taken over.  But the kick which a dialogue delivery has to have actually carries a charisma and certainly an unparalleled skill.

So let me remind about the dialogue once again, when in "MPK" Salman khan comes to the village where Suman & her father used to live and asks for Suman, Alok Nath (The Father) gets very angry on what ever happened at Salman's house etc. and he delivers the dialogue of the decade (for me it is even more special)...

"Maine Zindgi me hamesha apne Dil ki Suni Hai...

Shayad isi liye main Kabhi Bada Aadmi Nahi Ban Paaya..."

Through out my life I regarded myself as a person who listens to his heart over his mind. and Yes do faces the consequences every now & then. I always visualise myself as a person who is saying these rocking lines to someone.. (sounds like a looser...)

no its not,

Certainly not.

If you refer to the movie or assume you are watching the movie and this scene has come, I bet you would love to stand in place of Alok Nath.

I know when You say "Main Kabhi Bada Aadmi Nahi Ban Paaya' is like not achieving something great in life etc. But look at the conviction & faith of the man who says that "Maine Zindagi me hamesha Apne Dil Ki Suni Hai' ... Boss you got to be a hero to reach at a level when you can actually say that "Maine Zindagi me hamesha Apne Dil ki suni Hai'.

Afterall how many people can say this with their hands on their heart.  (think Again..Can you say this...???)

Yes if you could live most of your life (the way Alok Nath did in the movie) withstanding to what your heart says, You are a Hero, so what if you are not a 'Bada Aadmi'. After all in most of our bollywood movies the Hero is not a Bada Aadmi....

So friends wishing you all the courage to live by your dreams, the good luck to stand by the success of your dreams and the luxury to say ...""Maine Zindagi me hamesha Apne Dil ki suni Hai'. ... Till the last day of your life.

Luv

VT

Random updates...

Hi,

back after a long time, in between India has lifted the World Cup, Our Division annual meet took place, Navaratri is about to conclude, Anna Hazare won the battle against corruption & IPL has started. In between the new financial year too has started, however the new FY started with so much of work that I couldn't even realise that it has arrived.,

In last some 10 -11 days. I have made around 200 slides for various presentations and the worst part is that Now days I am working on slides even in my dreams. (what a pathetic dream it would be..)

Have written around 20-22 quotes for the event which worked well. While I was designing quotes for the event One quote which was not related to business in any sense struck my mind and it goes like this -

"You can not choose the questions of Your life, but yes You can choose how to answer them."

Sounds cool, Can flaunt it off !!! In fact I think I used it perhaps in some conversation or may be on this blog only..

But the real test is when You have to go through it.

The questions life poses to us leaves us so dumbstruck at time that we just miss to think about their solutions. Mote over the toughest part is when You are waiting for the question which life is going to pose.

Really a difficult phase, when every minute you are waiting to understand what life is going to ask you and this all kills the joy of all other comforts you are possessing in the waiting room of life.

The other irritating things about the wait are ( There is perhaps no language other than Urdu which has such a beautiful word 'Intezaar' which actually carries the dept of the meaning...)

1. You see a lot of people moving around and but you can not.

2. You see things are changing but you got to wait...

3.I think its going too philosophical so i must withdraw... but actually the same happens during any kind of 'Intezaar', other people withdraw their support.

Remember the time when in college other's viva is done but yours is pending... or even deadlier situation when others placement is done, but yours was pending.. When others target are met but yours are pending... when all your friends got married (Happily) and you are pending (Willingly)...

Just to conclude  I wanted to add one couplet, but just now I realised that I am really not getting any meaningful one... Tried searching a lot and could not find some thing better than this...

"Hum Intezaar karenge tera Quyamat tak,

Khudaa kare ke Quyamat ho aur tu Aaye..."

Luv

VT



Raaste pe hun Manzilon pe nahin !!!

Hi,

The tile is not only a phrase to me but has become a philosophy over the years. It started somewhere in 2004 when I was in Delhi and used to talk to my mates over phone, not so often as call were not so cheap, cells were not so common and I wasn't earning a single penny.

I have a lots of memories of land line telephonic conversations with friends. Some of the very interesting part of it were:-

1. We somehow knew it in advance that when we are calling to some close friend in how many rings he/she will pick up, if it exceeds it means somebody else will pick up.

2. We also knew miraculously that if someone is not at home right now, then where else he/she will be.

3. The most interesting part was that the phone at your place is ringing and without any caller ID , you know who is exactly calling you.

4. and not the least, you knew the numbers of your dear ones by heart.

Gone are the days !!! Those things can certainly not be felt with cell phones, which are more of a monitoring devices than Connecting ones.

Anyways Coming back to the topic, the cell phones brought a significant change in ice breaking question on a telephonic conversation. As soon as the person on the other side picks up 99% of the time the first question asked is " Kahaan par ho??" i.e. "Where are You?"

So it was a routine but new question to me when ever someone used to call me on my cell. Now when ever some close friend called up and asked the obvious "kahaan Ho", most of the time I used to be on the road walking somewhere, as I used to walk a lot those days. so I used to answer 'Raste par hun'. I think It was Neerav perhaps who couldn't hear me properly (another issue with cell phones) asked me to repeat and I said "Raaste par hun, Manzilon par nahin'. And suddenly we burst in to laughter. As many a times I & Neerav talk like that bringing some interesting phrases/ dialogues around.

So from then onwards whenever He called & asked "Kahaan Ho" I used to say this only that "Raaste par hun, Manzilon par Nahi" (and it was quite true in practical sense, after all I am in Mumbai now).

Some times I think this line has a lot more meaning in it. It is a fact when you are stuck in Mumbai traffic, almost every day that too attending most of your calls during that time and moreover philosophically too If I introspect It is the very fact word by word that "Main abhi bhi Raaste par hi hun, Manzilon par nahi."

Wish to receive a call someday, on cell phone, when I would be at the destination (Manzil), but I certainly do not want to reach such a destination where no phone call can disturb you, even in the busiest traffic jam.

It is more meaningful to be with someone who share the same path (Humsafar) than to reach at a destination which offers you solitude!!!

Luv

VT

Testimonials I worte on Orkut..

Hi,

I believe you guys must have not forgotten something called 'Orkut'. (Please take a nostalgic breath..)

So You must be familiar with something called 'Testimonial', I had written a few for my dear ones and I thought to write one for each of my close Friends on their respective birthday. Unfortunately Orkut grown much older than us very soon. I was lucky that people for whom I could write have received it and appreciated.

I could write total 4 testimonials, only for Neerav, Ankira, Bhuvan & Shweta only, Publishing them here and will try to write about my loved ones on this blog at times also...

However this too is true about me that "the best of the feelings often stays unspoken..."

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 6/2/09 Shweta

Shweta Vyas used to be Shweta Tiwari few years back, and by the virtue of her surname she had a Roll no next to mine, due to Alphabetical order, in our Engg. college SVITS. It was my good luck and hard luck of hers that for almost all Lab sessions she was bound to be with me in a group.

As I was always busy in extra curricular activities (No pun intended) completing Lab work was reduced to copy and write only (we couldn't copy n paste those days, as all submissions were hand written)

I can not count, how many times Shweta has helped me to complete my files, especially diagrams. Whenever I recall those days I visualize her helping me as well as scolding me same time for not completing the work myself. It was almost like a system, she has always helped me and i always relied on her. But what i missed is to Thanks her sincerely.

Today on her B'day, I'd like to say "Thank You" shweta, for all your support. It’s rare to find such selfless friends in today’s world.

May God bless U.

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 7/30/07 Bhuvan

Bhuvan gupta,

If you ask him a question, he will ask you ten before answering your one.

If you ask him to do some thing he will immediately start doing some thing else.

If you ask him to share some info. he will through a bundle of facts to you....

But, often we overlook the real Bhuvan behind above mentioned mundane actions...

He is the one who asks ten questions to you before answering the one because, he doesn't only want to answer your question but to solve your problem...

He is the one who does some thing different when asked to do a small favor because he tries not only to complete that particular activity but to complete entire course of action to shed your work load.

Similarly when he throughs his bundle of facts, we often overlook, that how much pain he has taken for us...

Dear Bhuvan,

Many a times i scolded you for being you, but the great thing is that you always remain "the Bhuvan" and you never left me. I am proud that I have close friends like you. :-)

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8/16/06 ○○○ Ankira ○○○

Ankira,

You are one of those Gems which I found in SVITS. I can not write much about you as it is so difficult to write about those who are very close to our heart.

To me you are like my kid, my student and very very strong supporter.

I wish i wud see you always growing, achieving more n more success and become better than the best...

I know due to my business [Busy-Ness] I can not share enough time with you, I could not encourage you for yr exams and challenges the way I could have done..

I am sorry for that all.. May you reach all the success you deserve...

See you at the TOP...

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 7/23/06 ♪♪ Neerav...♪♪

Dear Neerav,

Its not easy to find exact words for you but when ever i thing of you this song comes in my mind, I think it perfectly describes you....

"hum hain raahee pyaar ke hum se kuchh naa boliye

jo bhee pyaar se milaa, hum usee ke ho liye

dard bhee humei kabool chain bhee humei kabool

hum ne har tarah ke fool haar mein piro liye

dhoop thee naseeb me, dhup mein liyaa hain dam

chaandanee milee to hum chaandanee mein so liye

dil pe aasaraa kiye, hum to bas yoo hee jiye

yek kadam pe has liye, yek kadam pe ro liye

raah mein pade hain hum kab se aap kee kasam

dekhiye to kam se kam boliye naa boliye"

 

 

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Luv

 

VT

Laugh & Cry...

Hi,

A small  anecdote, rather a quote I got on facebook is worth sharing here, or rather one of my 'Monday Morning Motivation' kinds...

so it goes like this... (I have already used it in couple of training sessions and in my lectures too...Didn't I tell You I got an opportunity to conduct lectures for an MBA college... Gr8 experience... will pour some of the feelers soon from it...)

 If I tell you a funny joke, you would laugh at it...

If I tell You the same joke again you may still laugh at it for courtesy...

But if I crack the same joke again.. You may perhaps give a smile...

But if I share the same joke again & again  you may not find it funny...

in fact you would find it boring & stale...

The crux is 'You can not laugh at the same joke again & again...'

Then how can we cry over the same problem again & again...???

Even if the problem is consistent & feels like ever existing... just stop crying over it...

Would like to add one quote from my archives.. (I do not own this quote..)

'You can not change your past, but surely you can change the way you feel about it...'

Luv

VT

Back Again...

I got one response from Priyanka and a couple of other on face book to reignite the blog...

Well certainly there is a lot to share now on my side...but will come out...'Ahista..Ahista.."

However to drop something meaningful here pasting a legend (actually a Poem..,. can we call a poem a 'legend'..??) by Nida Fazli...

This one is featured by Jagjit Singh also in one of his albums...

safar me dhoop to hogi, jo chal sako to chalo

sabhi hain bheed mein tum bhee nikal sako to chalo

kisi ke waaste raahen kahan badalti hai

tum apne aap ko khud hi badal sako to chalo

yahan kisi ko koi raasta nahin deta

mujhe gira ke agar tum sambhal sako to chalo

yahi hai zindagi kuch khwaab chand ummeeden

inhi khilonon se tum bhee bahal sako to chalo

Luv

VT

Pls Suggest...

Hi,

Just came to my own blog likw that...

Shockked to see that no. of followers increased, Even when I was not writing anything for almost a year...

Pls suggest 'Should I Start it again..."??

Luv VT